Sometimes we can make it worse response
My dear friend Christine has a way of hitting issues WAY to close to home at very untimely ( but really, incredibly timely) times. If you are interested in therapeutic parenting at all, or want to know how you can support adoptive parents who are in the thick of very tough things, PLEASE read her post…and then when you get addicted like I did….keep reading.
Here’s my response to her post today.
Thank you.
I am so new to this, but I thought I was better prepared than most. I was staff at an RTC for 5 years and had kids do things to me and say things to me that would make most people shudder or run in fear, but they didn’t phase me. They weren’t MY kids. Somewhere in me I knew that they weren’t doing it to ME.
Why is it so much harder now that these two boys have come into our home and have become ours?
The words don’t hurt, most of the time, especially in the middle of a tantrum. It’s the disrespect that really gets to me. The defiance. the on purpose stuff. The challenging “what are you going to do about it” stuff.
I am trying to remember my training, at the RTC and in the theatre. I’m trying to remember how to breathe…cuz I’ve been holding my breath a lot.
This is hard stuff.
Thank you.
Hannah
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